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Tuesday, February 24, 2015
It's personal
Good evening everyone, another post, and another reminder that circumstances don't matter but state of being does, in the past few weeks I've dealt with some very unpleasant circumstances I've brought upon myself, yes, even as I've learned SO much about conscious creation I'll still wobble here and there. Being a deliberate creator is a personal journey, nobody else's, and we all have a different point of view when it comes to manifesting our desires, others cannot see things from our own point of view, and we cannot force our point of view on others as well. We must let others be as they are, even if they disagree with us or we with them, making peace with current circumstances moves us forward and that includes accepting others for who they are, allowing them to be as they are, again, this is a personal journey and only we ourselves can determine how we are feeling and where we are going, it's all personal choice, and no one else can decide for us. As hard as it can be to deal with others, especially in the workplace, we can be the creator of our circumstances rather than the victims of them, we should always put alignment first, before anyone and anything, nothing is more important if you want to create the life you want, putting yourself first is not selfish when it comes to deliberate creation, you must help yourself first before you can help others. In closing there is this adage, circumstances don't matter, state of being does, put more simply, our well being should not be conditional upon anyone or anything, but rather we should be focused on alignment above everything else, well being and peace out!
Friday, February 13, 2015
Judge, jury, and persecution
Good Friday and well being everyone, moving completed, things are in one place, and allowing the next phase of the journey to play out, for now, this writer will reside in the Sonoran desert [Arizona] until further inspiration comes to act upon. When returning here I discovered some slightly negative unresolved issues that were waiting for me, so when I left last April for Southern California to escape the brutal summer I also left behind some issues I didn't want to confront, but figured that if I left them behind they would dissolve on their own, not the case, and this was a huge lesson for me because upon returning here to AZ I had huge expectations about how things would turn out, and at first it seemed I was on the right track, even on the move back I received many positive vibrational matches, this was on Sunday, by Tuesday night I had hit a wall and it was as if I never left Arizona last April, all that progress that I'd made while in Southern California seemed to be in vain, I was confronted with the issues I'd left behind, and I had to deal with them in full force. The lesson is clear-fold, we will always have issues to clean up and this is something we'll never get done, as new issues will arise to clean up again and again, and each time new desires will be launched, this is called progress in personal development, or growth if you will, you cannot hide from negative unresolved issues when you are creating the life of your dreams, they must be removed to go forward and this means releasing judgments and attachments to negative thinking towards people and circumstances. I am finding that unresolved issues hinder progress towards the things we want, because until we clean them up they will continue to surface in our reality until we do, these things seem to haunt us like ghosts of the past until we let go or forgive, even make peace with those people or circumstances, so that we can continue to move on our own path. Somewhere I came across an article that said we should always be looking into our own mirror and not into anyone else's mirror, we tend to get side-tracked when we worry what others are thinking and doing, we make judgments about a person or a circumstance without realizing we are becoming that of which we are judging, then we stray from our own path and give away our very power in the process, power we NEED to manifest our desires! As we choose our own path, [through intentions and desires] we need to stay on that path, we need to focus on ourselves, not on what others are doing, we cannot force our point of view on others or vise-versa, and others cannot possibly see our own path, or vise-versa, this is why unresolved negative issues with people and circumstance must be resolved, the judgments, the resentments, the anger, or else wherever you go, they'll come with you, in a different place, but in the form of the same circumstances and different like minded people, that will show up in your reality. If something, or someone in your life is causing you stress or pain, running away will only result in a new person or thing in a new place, waiting to enter your experience, that will cause you more stress and pain, until the negative issues are resolved and made peace with. While my own issues were very minor by most standards, I still couldn't move to the next level until I made peace with them, because they were affecting my energy to some extent, resulting in lower vibrations, and when those fester they can make a mountain out of a mole-hill.
On our own path it is paramount to accept who is and what is, and as selfish as this may sound you only have you, and that is where your energy needs to be directed, and to let others be as they simply choose to be, without judgment, they are on their own path and we cannot decide for them, nor can we judge their actions or behaviors, as we will be directing those judgments at ourselves, becoming the person or thing we judge upon. Sometimes there are people and circumstances in life that are just too hard to ignore, downright nasty and unforgiving, still, peace must be made or at the very least, being neutral towards the person or circumstance as not to create more of the same, but either way it all boils down to letting go of anything that's making you feel even the slightest bit, say, negative. Stay viewed.
Wednesday, February 4, 2015
HOP IN!
Good Wednesday morning, before packing some more for the move I wanted to bang out another topic, yet a very insightful one mind you, how important change is when applying deliberate creation, and whatever change you wish to make in your life, especially big change, your reality will seem to re-arrange itself in ways that may be uncomfortable and even quite scary at times. Why is it we're so afraid of change?, and yet it's that very thing we want so badly, that requires some sort of circumstance, that takes us out of our ''safe'' zone, and at the first sight of it, we go into panic mode because we're afraid of being thrown out of our self limiting comfort zone. Fear of change is such an illusion like all fear is, it's funny how stressful people make moving or relocating to be, they get scared because they're stepping into the unfamiliar and unknown, they continually obsess over the ''what if's'' and create chaos and upheaval when they move or relocate to a new job, city, or state, questioning whether they made the right choices regarding the move, then damning themselves by buying into the illusion that a poor choice was made, which in turn the Universe responds, ''if it's a poor choice you've made, then a poor choice it will be'' and the negative cycle begins. We are always moving towards the things we want, and the changes we want as well, but if we're questioning everything that happens pertaining to said changes, and becoming discouraged that it's not going ''our way'' we're throwing a wrench into the perfect machine that grants our very wishes and desires. I'm moving in four days, and with this next step I've decided I would relinquish all control over how it plays out, I've handed all the details over to Universal intelligence, as a true deliberate creator does, I am not worried, I am not scared, I have no set plans of action either, nor have I decided upon how or where I'll ultimately live, up to this point I've been well taken care of, so it only makes sense to trust the stream of life to carry me where I want to go. The Universe very well knows what I want, just my knowing this gives me the courage to TRUST that I'm headed in the right direction, it kind of excites me, the unknown, the adventure of it all, the thrill of the chase, of true freedom! I would liken this journey as that of a hitch-hiker [me 28 years ago] leaving California with no particular place to go, but spring break in Daytona sounds good, just going to drift along, then a ride pulls off the roadside and a friendly stranger asks ''where you going?'' and I reply ''Florida for spring break!'' and the friendly stranger responds ''hop in'' Now, would you accept that ride?, of course you would [those were better times of course, no one hardly hitch-hikes these days] but the point I make is you're not afraid because you're that much closer to your destination and I'm talking from experience here, you just trust the unfolding, knowing that you're always moving towards the goal, providing you don't let fear and worry stand in your way!
Trust plays a major role in the game of life and that means trusting in what we can't see, because it's what we can't see that's working behind the scenes, lining everything up, just so we can get what we want, yet we don't get to decide the how's and when's, but troubled be not my friends, don't you like surprises? In the past five years I've moved four times, two of them out of state and they get easier and easier every time, however, sooner or later we decide to settle down and plant those roots and I'm contemplating my final destination as of now, but at the same time in no hurry to figure it ALL out, I've been craving some adventure and new experiences and also want to travel around and write for a few months. It's not all strictly business though, far from that, having fun is one of my greatest passions, as well as cooking, writing, extreme and loud music, strength training, hiking, parties, and some much overdue camping. Yes, adventure comes in many forms, and I'm turning 51 years young on Sunday, the same day of the move, coincidence?, not even! More unfolding to come, stay tuned.
Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Allow ''me''
Good morning and well being, this is my moving week and once again my journey requires re-location, I'm the kind of guy that doesn't like to be in one place too long and although I DO plan on grounding myself in one place eventually, I'm feeling the hunger for adventure along with change, yes, it seems as if expansion is inevitable as we become more aware of what we want. How about that topic now?, some of you reading this post are successfully manifesting your goals and desires, some of you are in the process clearing away limited beliefs and reprogramming your subconscious, and there are those of you just getting started and wanting to learn how reality creation works, as well as how to apply it to get everything you want, well friends, this post is just for you. I've been at this reality creation stuff for nearly five years now and I'm by no means the expert on deliberate creation, I'm still a work in progress and it's important to keep in mind that this is a ''lifetime'' journey, we'll never get this done and some things will manifest quicker and easier and some will require inner work and take much longer, as this will all be dependent on the types of thoughts and beliefs we hold. Usually when beginning reality creation one will get excited when they find out that they can create their very own reality, but shortly after they'll discover that there are limited beliefs standing in the way, they may get discouraged and give up, thinking that law of attraction isn't real, and then law of attraction gives them just that, proof that it carries no reality, and so they'll fail to learn and apply these laws to be, do, and have the life they want, but make no mistake, like gravity this law is always in operation 24/7. I want to help you manifest what you want, so allow me to give you one important tip to manifest whatever it is you want to experience in your reality, and if you should choose to focus on the very ''thing'' you want, at first you may feel some discomfort, this is resistance due to some kind of limiting belief, meaning you'll have to do some inner work and soul searching to clear it up, no fun there, there's work involved and who wants that? here's an example, you want more money, lots more of it, but if you focus on just the money itself, it could stir up some negative beliefs around money hindering your efforts altogether. I think most people have this problem when using reality creation to attract money, there is always some underlying belief on the subject of having wealth and attaining it as well, so every time they try to feel good about money, a voice in their head says that it's impossible, and it just isn't going to happen! think about it, why do you really want money?, what does it represent to you?, how about freedom, independence, giving freely, and having a lot of confidence?, those ''symbols'' of having money? These are the things you would need to focus on WITH feeling, as is the same with everything else, you see the Universe doesn't go by the subject [money] itself, it operates and brings to you things based on what you're ''feeling'' and this is why crystal clarity is highly important when wanting to manifest a specific outcome into your physical reality. You need to focus on the thing you want but you want to focus on what it symbolizes to you, that essence of the thing desired, and with constant practice and focus you'll reach more and more clarity matching up to your desire emotionally, by-passing limited beliefs, you're focusing on the by-product of your desire rather than trying to focus on the subject of the desire itself, this is a much easier approach. I did just the opposite when I first began applying reality creation, focusing only on the ''subject'' of my goal, this created a long and arduous path to manifestation full of frustration and impatience, resulting more of using the mind, and less use of emotional energy, and as I've said above, it's all about the emotion, the WHY you want what you want. Ask yourself these questions regarding what you want, ''why do I want this thing?, how does it make me feel?, what changes will it bring into my life?'' asking yourself these questions will help you gain clarity around your desire and aid in the emotional aspects of your goal, fueling the rocket of desire. Sometimes we want something without knowing why we really want it, so we'll say to ourselves we want it ''just because'' and this sends out a weak signal to Universal intelligence and manifestation is near-impossible at best. So in wrapping this all up, if you are getting frustrated with your results with vibrational matches, tweak your focus a little, take your ''mind'' off the subject altogether [money, soul mate, perfect health] and instead ''feel'' in the heart, what these things represent to you, their essence, not the be all, end all limited focus that so many attempt to try, change your focus and watch what happens, you'll speed up your results and by-pass those limiting beliefs, allowing what you want instead of forcing it, take it out of the mind and place it in the heart.
Friday, January 23, 2015
What a relief!
It's Friday at last, good morning friends and much appreciation to the followers who view these posts, there is and continues to be very useful stuff here that has worked well for me, and so I wish to pay it forward to you in hopes that it helps you move forward towards your own success. I want to take the opportunity to give a little update on what's happening in the world of all things Douglas, the deliberate creator. As of now more changes are about to occur in my life as I am moving once again, I've been steadily molding my vibration towards my desires for nearly nine months now, taking no physical actions whatsoever, now another chapter is about to unfold, am I nervous?, a little, but that's a part of being human and it's all good. When we want something really bad we must be very clear about it, we may ''think'' we know what will make us happy but when it comes to really feeling the essence of what we want we fall short on clarity, this is because we're thinking more than we are feeling, what we really want must be felt DEEP in our being, over and over until we know beyond belief that it's already ours. I've reached such a place, my work is done with the desire, vibrational matching level, it's no longer in my hands, the how, the when, is now the job of Universal intelligence. When doing my vibrational work these past nine months it's kept me busy mentally, but since I've backed off my mind has been going off in tantrums, over-analyzing everything, wanting to take action, getting restless, worrying, it's as if my mind ''knows'' change is occurring and trying to go into panic mode, this is normal of course. The way to beat this will sound too good to be true but it's so simple, and it could mean the difference between total chaos or complete harmony when big changes are happening, after all we asked for them, so DO be careful what you wish for. At one time when I felt resistance emerge, I would focus on my desires to feel better, but after awhile the ''longing'' would kick in, and longing for our desires will not manifest them, longing implies not having them yet, and law of attraction will bring more of ''not having'' them yet. Here's the key to allowing the good stuff in, relief, yes good old fashioned relief, I know it sounds too simple, but it's all you need to reach for, because when it comes to getting everything you want, what will you feel when you get it?, excitement?, maybe at first, but when the honeymoon ends the excitement wanes, leaving you where?, you guessed it, relieved! When we force ourselves to act on something to avoid an undesirable outcome, we sabotage ourselves, this is because at a subconscious level we are still focused on what we don't want, and with all things L.O.A., we get what we're dominantly focused on, and we may not even be aware of it. We are hard-wired for survival, most of the daily actions we take are to avoid something, an outcome, a certain circumstance or person, yet we wonder why those undesired outcomes are always the same, we are fighting against the very things we want. While it's good to ''match up'' to what we want, we try too hard to do this with our desires only, but in all the other areas in our lives, on a moment to moment basis, we're out of alignment with everything we want because of our hard-wired actions, which speak a different language when it comes to allowing the things we want in ANY given moment. In closing, the Universe already knows what you want, you can get as excited as you want about your desires, but be careful because excitement still indicates a vibrational gap between you and what you want, this can lead to ''longing'' and as I mentioned above it will be difficult to manifest your desire in this manner. If you can reach for the feeling of relief on a regular basis leaving out the desire [the Universe already knows] you've friggin' nailed it!
Tuesday, January 20, 2015
JOURNEY TO THE CENTER OF THE SELF
Terrific Tuesday everyone! In the past 57 months, slow and steady growth has won the race for me, looking back at where this all began, [the deepest desire for positive change in my life,] it's easy to understand why my progress has been so slow going, and for a very good reason. It would seem very nice if we could just decide that we wanted to change something we're not happy with in our life, and suddenly it's fixed as fast as we wanted it to be, but unfortunately things don't work that way. We are conditioned and instilled with certain beliefs that go completely against the spiritual concepts of the law of attraction and effortless manifestation, thus inner work and re-conditioning of our thoughts and beliefs are required on a consistent basis. We don't need to have everything figured out, but when we learn about and implement conscious creation to create the life we desire we'll ''think'' that we will know what's best for us, we'll think we're very clear on what it is we really want, but this would be far from the truth. As we are just beginning to understand how these Universal laws operate we may try to manipulate them in our favor, I too did this in the beginning, but the Universe will not deliver something you are not ready for, you must become a vibrational match to what it is you wish to manifest. It is true that the moment you decided what you wanted, it WAS created, your broader self is already ''living'' your desire, therefor you must get up to speed with your already created desire, you must ''catch up'' with it at a vibrational standpoint, you must already have it despite what your physical reality is telling you. I think at the beginning desire is formed from our ego self, more money, that big mansion, that sports car that turns your friends green with envy, you know, stuff! I'm not knocking those things, I'm that person too, but during all of this wanting and desire something else happens, a self discovery if you will, you start to identify with who you really are. This is no accident, our purpose is to seek this truth, even through desire, and although we wish we could just simply get everything we wanted with no strings attached, we would just not be ready for it, these things could not remain in our lives, they would just come and go. Look no further than lottery winners who win mega million dollar jackpots, in most cases they were not ready or capable of handling huge sums of money, they spend and behave in a reckless manner, there is conflict with family members and friends, the initial excitement was good, but a few years down the road they'll tell you that winning 300,000,000 was one of the worst things to ever happen to them, having that kind of money was just too much for them to handle, it tore their friends and families apart. On the other hand there are people who win the lottery and follow their hearts, they'll give a large portion of it towards charity and good causes, pay college tuition for their children or grandchildren, they'll invest wisely for returns, creating a constant flow of wealth going out and coming in, some even remain working in their day jobs, choosing to not live in the ignorance of the sudden windfall of the ''now that I'm rich, I'll fill that empty void and spend, spend, and spend before it's gone'' mentality. These people directed their windfall outward, not inward, true wealth is created from within, because that is where it lies, within, but if it's directed outward it will leave your reality almost as fast as it came. There is no right or wrong, everything is neutral, we as humans give everything a meaning according to our perception and beliefs, once we begin to know the true self, the perception and beliefs change, as well as the reality we create. We'll never get it done, we'll continue to desire more once a desire is fulfilled and so on and so on, until, desire no longer is important because we discover that everything we ever wanted was already within us, not outside of us, and through constant desire we reach a place where we discover our true purpose, and if you haven't figured this whole thing out yet don't sweat it, it's a journey friends, experience and enjoy!
OWN WHO YOU ARE!
So chances are you've decided you wanted something big, that life changing desire for something better, a career move, buying a new house, attracting a life partner etc. All valid desires and easily achievable, wait a minute you say, easily?, how so?, this post will attempt to go against all conventional thinking, to bring light into the higher truth that anything desired can be accomplished, with less effort than more effort. It is important to understand this higher truth and KNOW it in every fiber of our being, we must OWN it, because WE in our physical bodies and limited minds [no offense and with due respect] believe hard work is necessary to have what we want, that narrow ground level view that sees only one or two ways at most to accomplish a goal. Then there is our non-physical self, that has a mountain top view, of the quickest and easiest path to take towards reaching our goal. I've written past posts similar to this subject on alignment with our non physical selves, but this subject really needs to be ''driven home'' to illustrate it's crucial importance to manifest the life we choose. Who you are now and what you want to be creates the gap, and the gap must be closed, and the moment you decided what you wanted, it was created in the potential, [it already exists] and the wheels are in motion, the only thing you can do now is get out of your own way and allow it to come, or continue to delay the inevitable arrival of the wanted desire. The right choice is to make peace with your desire, but more than likely we will question the process only to delay the allowing of it's manifestation, questions arise such as ''am I doing this right?, what am I doing wrong?, when is it coming and why is it taking so long?, how will it manifest?, am I doing enough?'' questions such as these will only delay the manifestation process, these types of questions create feelings of anxiety [lower vibrations] and trigger more worry regarding your desire, thus delaying it's arrival. The only way our physical self can accomplish anything is through hard work and toil, this is because the ego driven mind has been given control, and it has a very limited perspective on how things really work, for it has been conditioned to ''follow the herd'' of status quo and thinks and believes, as well as behaves, on what society has conditioned it to believe, thus you are the servant of your ego mind and you will live your life in the victim mentality. When a task is turned over to the higher mind [broader self] it is carried through in the least amount of effort, the path of least resistance, this is accomplished through alignment, your only job is to focus in a way that tells your broader self that you KNOW you already HAVE what it is you want, that's it!, sounds too simple right?, if you believe that this is all too good to be true you would be right, because you get what you believe in, this is how law of attraction works, but should you believe that everything you wanted in life could be accomplished with minimal to little effort on your part, that all you would have to do is allow it, you would be right as well and your results would validate this truth. Remember the famous quote?, ''whether you believe you can or cannot, you are right'' nothing is more truer with law of attraction, you get what you believe!
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